Learnin’ to Lindy where everyone’s friendly
Muscle memory. I’ve decided that is what I need. That and a bit of an attitude change (i.e. a bit of a more healthy outlook). If you are wondering why then please read week 3 for the context of this week’s activities pre-Tuesday.
Some (most?) people would be forgetting about having a rough 5 mins and move on. I know myself, however. I understood that being shy and out of my comfort zone already, I needed a bit of a boost to make sure I felt better about being at the social dancing next week.
So back to muscle memory. I decided I needed to be able to dance without having to think ‘rock-step triple-step…’ in my head. So I stuck some music on my phone and began dancing basic steps to it.
In lifts: Rock-step, triple-step, step-step, triple-step.
At pedestrian crossings: Rock step, triple-step, strange-look, triple-step.
Cooking: Rock-step, triple-step, chop-veg, triple-step.
I wouldn’t recommend the last one. I almost cut myself several times and it took ages to cook dinner.
You might also have noticed a contradiction about having absolutely no problem doing these things in public, whilst worrying about it with people who are (or have probably been) in the same boat on a Tuesday evening. I don’t understand it either but I have learnt to accept that part of me…
Regards the attitude change I did a bit of internet reading. What I read basically reinforced that a lot of beginners are nervous about asking for dances and how they are on the dance floor . This had already been mentioned by teachers during the lessons by the way. Sometimes you just need to hear something over and over again (or at least I do!).
So lots of preparation but none of it hard work. You know you are enjoying the practice when you want more vegetables with your meal.
One last thing I did before Tuesday evening was buy some shoes. This was somewhat by accident but I was happening past M&S outlet on Tuesday after work and took a chance walking in. I found some leather soled shoes for a good price (leather soles are more slippery so make twists etc. easier when dancing – I read that on a blog post here!). I took them home and tried them. It felt great. I said to myself I’d wear them in for a couple of weeks then take them with me. They were so much better than my other shoes that I took them with me that evening.
So how was Tuesday? Great – best evening yet! It was beginners week 1 so we were covering 6 count steps (6 count is rock-step, triple-step, triple-step – I had been practicing that, too). It felt good to be covering this again after some practice and I noticed my efforts had paid off. My brain was able to focus on all the other pieces rather than exactly what my feet were doing, which felt great.
Solo Jazz was a really fun Charleston routine, which everyone then performed later during the social. I had great fun doing it and haven’t been able to get ‘put a lid on it’ (the song we did it to) out of my head since.
And the social dancing went really well. Several things came together to make this particularly enjoyable:
1) I asked lots of people to dance. These were mainly beginners who were more than happy to be asked (unless I scared them into it..). This felt good in a couple of ways – I got practice asking people to dance and we both got practice doing some basic 6 count moves.
2) At one point the organisers got a few people on the dance floor. They did a bit of dancing together, then each one had to find a new partner. This went on, getting almost everyone on the dance floor and dancing with lots of different people. I don’t know what this type of thing is called but it’s such a good idea it must have a name (Editors note: A snowball! These are great fun and a good way to get the shyest dancers up on the floor – we must do them more often).
3) I wasn’t so afraid of getting things wrong. Having the basic rhythm of the steps out of my head freed me up (emotionally and mentally) to try things without worrying about mistakes. I did nearly have a backwards attitude step when I was leading ‘Man in shorts’ (from week 2) and apologised on getting a bit wrong. His response was “Don’t apologise – it’s dancing!”. Thanks for that – it’s my new motto!!
Some other highlights include learning from ‘Patient lady’ to step forward on the ‘step-step’ because, as she said, “it looks cool”; and watching some of the more experienced dancers going for it with trying moves and making mistakes – but still having a good time.
I don’t think the evening could have gone better.
Well my shoes could have been worn in first.
Every step is a painful reminder of Tuesday evening.
Every step makes me smile.
Who is this guy?
I studied Physics and ended up in Financial Services (a fairly typical career path) with a wife and a 7 year old daughter. We have two cats at home and I am convinced they look down on my dancing (they certainly move a lot smoother than I do). If you want to help me to dance better than my cats then ask me to dance on a Tuesday evening. I’m the guy with the white and ginger beard.